Putting things in “Perspective”
I think Sally Struthers has given Americans a guilt complex. (For those of you who don’t remember, Sally Struthers was the first actress to go on television commercials showing pictures of starving children across the world and ask you to donate 50 cents a day to help them). Now, every time someone buys a cup of coffee, there’s a small piece of them that says they are a horrible, horrible person.
I’m not saying we shouldn’t feel horrible every time we buy coffee. (Actually, I am, but that’s another post altogether - and everyone all hopped up on how bad it is to be a part of American culture, I’m generally with you, so don’t freak out). Sometimes it’s good to feel the weight of being blessed as a steward to whom much is given. But it seems like this guilt complex we’ve developed over being born in a part of the world that has the most money has had some unfortunate complications - oddly enough, the guilt we feel over having a “good life” seems to keep us from understanding just how good our life really is.
That’s the problem with people always trying to “put things in perspective” - they sit down and compare their problems with the problems of those in a third world country and assume that should make them feel better. “Some people don’t even have enough food…I should be able to deal with my frustration at work,” etc. But that rarely works - at least for me - because it never makes me feel better. Actually, it makes me feel worse. I already felt bad, now on top of that I feel guilty for feeling bad.
I think, though, that the problem isn’t with putting things in perspective per se. It’s with the perspective we’re using. It’s no good.
Real perspective isn’t about what other people have had to deal with. That’s just making you feel like a wuss for not being able to handle your stuff better; it’s assuming that all people are very capable and you should just try to be more capable like people with bigger problems than yourself. Real perspective isn’t recognizing how other people have it. It’s recognizing how you have it - much better than you deserve.
You wonder why the Bible calls us to joy? Because the authors of the Bible know where we ought to be, and where we are. We ought to be facing eternal punishment for our rebellion against a good, loving, and very, very powerful King. (If you’re one of those Christians that’s “over that” because you’ve heard it before, take a moment and let it sink in. And if you don’t actually feel that way about yourself, then you’re probably not a Christian in the first place). Instead, we’re not in punishment. Comparitively, we’re doing quite well. Even if our whole life is falling apart, we still have hope, and not just hope in this life but actual Hope as an inheritance purchased for us by the sacrifice of that same King. We deserve to have no hope. We have lots of hope, and of the type that’s imperishable, undefiled, and waiting for us. We’re doing well, when you put it in perspective.
Lamenting is okay, and biblically justified at times. Sorrow is in the Bible as well as joy. But if sorrow dominates your life, something is wrong. You’ve got the wrong perspective. Take some time, get away from your routine, and think about the cross - what caused it, what happened on it, what happened after it, and what came from it. That’s the perspective the Bible calls us to have every moment of every day. And that’s why Paul can say, “Rejoice always.”
